Family trouble please someone give me advice?

my brother is 23 and lives with my mother. He lost his job so he collects unemployment my momma told him to just pay the cable. He didn't pay it so it's been cut off for a while. My mom got a second job at target. she confronted him %26amp; said she doesn't think it's fair that he's able to just not pay bills and it's okay with him and she had to take out loans to get her bills paid this month because she had no other choice. and that he needs to learn how to pay his bills no matter what. He got made a started throwing chairs and cussing her out. Everyone in my family found out and started talking about my mama calling her stingy and saying she's just trying to get money out of him. They started talking about how she doesn't buy my brothers food but she said their grown men now (23%26amp;20) I kind of feel bad for her but I kinda feel bad for him because he's struggling do you think my mom is being selfishFamily trouble please someone give me advice?
She's not being selfish, but the best thing she could do for your brothers is to put them out of the house. They should learn to act like adult men, stand on their own two feet....and help her out if she needs it.Family trouble please someone give me advice?
If he is not taking the necesary steps that he needs to take to do better for himself as far as getting a job or going to school then no your mom is right. But if he is trying to find another job and maybe has his own bills to pay then that's different, but throwing chairs is a sign that he is being defensive because he knows deep down inside that he isn't doing what he needs to be doing to take care of himself.
No, your mom is not being selfish. You brother has not grown up, and will not as long as your mom is paying his way. Believe me I have seen this going on for a long time with my brother. He is 46 and expects my folks to pay his way. I don't understand how anyone would think she is trying to get money out of him, when it's the exact opposite. Throwing chairs and cussing at your mom is very bizarre behavior.
They should be out on their own.
He is old enough to look after himself. Your mother should kick him out.
Absolutely not. She is teaching her boys to be men...or trying to, anyway. That aside, it doesn't matter if she is being selfish or not. It isn't your place or that of anyone in your family to judge her. For better or worse, she is just being the best mom she knows how to be. You are a good child for caring about her. Now, be an even better one by supporting her, emotionally. What your brother is doing is unacceptable and illegal. Next time he acts that way, you should call the police. Best of luck. Kerrie Wheeler, LCPC


PS (By ';child'; I mean son/daughter)
Your brother is an adult, if he wants to be treated like one, he should learn to act like one. He needs to take responsibility for himself. He is collecting unemployment so he can pay the cable bill for living with your mom. If he didn't live with her, he'd have to pay a lot more for rent and food. Your brother is being stingy. Your poor mom worked hard raising all of you, now she has to take a second job cause your brother is acting like a good for nothing idiot. Your mom loves him or she'd kick him out on his a$$. He should be grateful she is only asking him to pay the cable. He is probably costing her a lot more than what the cable bill is, just by staying with her. Electricity is not free, neither is water, paper goods, (I'm sure he uses toilet paper) and all the other household necessities that he uses. Tell your brother to grow up!!! He deserves a wake up call!
Hell no! Your mom is definately not being selfish... Those boys are GROWN MEN and they need to take care of themselves especially when their mother can't afford much at all. Those boys need to realize that their mother is not put on this earth to serve them and they need to help out where they can. Stuff these days is not cheap and I totally understand her and what she's doing. Those boys shouldnt let their mother EVEN GET A SECOND JOB! Thats rediculous... Everyday she's getting older and not younger, there's no need for her to take on extra stress and responsibilities just because her sons are being lazy and inconsiderate. Your mother does not need to put up with that and really... her sons should be the ones to LEAVE if they can't pay their own way.