I really need your advice everyone it is a family crisis and im ashamed?

ok plz dont judge me until i finish story


ok 4 years ago in 6th grade i got my first gf i was so happy. but she wanted to kiss me and i had never kissed a girl before so i made up some excuse that i was sick. so for some reason i kissed my sister on the mouth on 2 seperate occasions she was 6 i was 12. i felt so bad after i did it i went to confession and told a priest and he absolved me


now my sister told my parents about it yesterday and i denied it


because i am so ashamed and embarrased of what i did i would never want them to know i am so confused on what to do now i wanna tell the truth but im scared to plz i need your help


i am about to puke from embarasment plz i am so ashamed


i know i made pennace with god and all but im still scared 2 tell my mom and dad they are great to me but i dont want them to be ashamed of me i want to be the best i can for themI really need your advice everyone it is a family crisis and im ashamed?
At 12 years old you knew what you were doing! And you need to tell your parents so they can get you the help you desperately need!I really need your advice everyone it is a family crisis and im ashamed?
You need to tell your parents that something did happen, because right now they may be thinking that either A) your sister is lying, or B) something even worse happened.





Explain exactly what happened. Tell them that you confessed to your priest.. that you know it was wrong, and that you have never considered doing anything like that again. You were 12 years old, and curious... no harm was done, as long as you tell the truth now.
Tell your parents the truth. You are feeling guilt and that is God's way of telling you that you need conviction for your wrong doing.





You will clear your mind of this and feel better. They already know the truth, because your sister told and she probably wouldn't make up something like that at her age... so you should confess to release yourself of the guilt... and never do it again.
What I would do is tell your parent the one whom your most comfortable with, and just tell him/her your situation, and also that you felt really bad about the whole thing and that you had to yake it to confession. I'm pretty sure that he/she would understand.
Sometimes we fear the worse of our parents but you might just be surprised as to how well they understand. They know what kids can be like. Also if you tell them you are showing them that you are a responsible person and know that what you did was wrong and how sorry you are. Get this out of you system, be honest, sincere and apologise. good luck
just say you were young,and didnt know what u were doing..tell the truth...it can embarrass you more when u get older..saying the truth always work, but just dont panic wait for the right moment. i know its a difficult situation but..sometimes we have to face it..


cheers


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I think you should tell them because it's not fair to your sister to make her look like a possible liar for telling the truth. Tell your parents that you didn't want to admit it because you are so ashamed of having done it, and reassure them that you've never done anything like that since and never will again.





Your parents may be bothered by it at first, but they will still love you. You're not the only person who did something weird as a kid that you later wish you hadn't done. I can think of a handfull of such things.
It sounds to me like you are really sorry for doing this. If you only kissed her, did not make out with her, or something worse, I really think your parents will forgive you. It is far more important though, that you set things right with your sister. She needs to know that you regret this, and that it will NEVER happen again. Maybe you can do this: first, print out this page. Put it in an envelope and seal it. Tell your parents that you want to have a serious family talk and include your sister. First, start by telling your sister that you are very sorry for doing that, and for lying out of fear and embarrassment. Then tell your parents to please open the envelope and read the page. I think that would be much easier for you than trying to find the words to say it. You explained it well in your post and like I said before, it sounds as if you don't intend to do anything to your sister. Maybe you can have a family agreement to never talk of this unless all of you are there, and only with one another. This way, if your sister has worries or feels bad also, she can get help from your Mom and Dad and you can also have the opportunity to reassure them that this was a thing that will NEVER happen again. Your sister needs very much to be able to trust in you that you will protect her and be on her side, within healthy boundaries. Telling the truth to your parents will set a good example for your sister, and show her that you and she can go to your parents for help with life issues that will come up in the future. I very much hope that your parents handle this situation with maturity and grace. You are showing that you want to make this right, and I really think you are a good kid. People do make mistakes and it is best for you to work this out so you can recover the respect of your parents and sister, and start feeling better yourself. When people hide things like this, they slowly shut themselves away from their loved ones out of shame and remorse, and it never has a way to get better. I hope this answer helps, and I think you can figure out a way, maybe not the exact way I said, but some way to get this all settled so you can stop worrying about it. I am proud of you that you have a conscience and it bothers you. That is a good sign that you are a good person. Now go take care of it when you can. Be brave and God Bless!