Advice on rape and telling family?

a few months ago i was raped. i believe i was drugged because i only remember bits and pieces of the event and I am slowly remembering more. I want to find counseling but I am embarrassed to do so. i feel like it was partially my fault for no paying better attention to my surroundings and my drink. I probably had too much to drink in the first place.


I recently got tested for STI's and so far I has been diagnosed with chlamydia. The guy also took my virginity, so i know for a fact that i got this for this time. I am extremely scared to get my HIV results. I have only told one person about what happened. I want to tell my family but i am too embarrassed. Advice on rape and telling family?
No one has the right to take advantage of you...no matter what. Please make sure that you get your medical needs met in all this. Most infections can be treated if they are caught early. And, make sure you get some counseling. There are many, many wonderful counselors and therapists that can help you through this. God bless, and take good care of yourself. You deserve it!!Advice on rape and telling family?
just sit them down and say this...';a couple months ago something really bad happened.because of it i now have chlamydia, and no longer a virgin.(pause)i was raped.i am sorry i didn't sa anything but i was embarrassed because i didn't remember some of it and because i was drinking that night.';





don't apologize because it was not your fault at all!and and and don't be embarrassed.this guy is a monster.he should be stopped.if you know who it was, testify!!!
Sweetie you do not say why you won't tell your family! Please if you can tell them or someone you can trust. Do you know who did this to you?


tell a best friend,your mom and so on. I am so sorry someone did this to you Now a days you have to be very careful even if you are with friends How old are you ,are you in school? talking in here is ok also but please do not do this alone you did nothing wrong got it!!!
just letting you know what i think about the virginity thing.


you really shouldnt think he took your virginity, if you werent willing to do it, then its just not the same. thats how i look at it :)





p.s ITS NOT YUOR FAULT. just because you were drunk, DOES NOT give anyone the right to take advantage of you!
first, sorry. second, just tell em one by one. they have to know eventually. i don't think you'll be able to find the guy though [i know you didn't say you wanted to catch him, i'm just saying]... which sucks cause he's not gonna get what he deserves
Wow that was very brave for you to tell us this. First thing first, you should not blame yourself for any of this. You were in no way at fault for this happening to you. You are a good girl and should feel no shame or fear about this. Please seek counseling there are people that care and you need their help. You can't do this on your own you need support at this stage in your life. So please don't feel embarrassed or afraid to seek out help. Also please see your doctor too help you with the physical effects of the rape. I hope that you too have a supportive family to talk to about this. And I hope that you will some day you will have better times in your life.





http://www.rapehelp.com/





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1. It is not your fault so scrap that.


2. There is nothing embarassing about being raped. You did nothing wrong.


3. Only tell people who will help you get help. Don't tell people that you simply like or have previously confided in. Focus on getting help/guidance and getting this creep busted.





I am very sorry that you had to go through this. Keep your head up and know that you are no less amazing than you were before this happened. In fact, you are more amazing. Sometimes the bad things that happen in our lives helps build character.