I need advice and opinions about my family...please help me?

im am 23, i am planning a wedding with my fiance who is almost 30. we've been together for several years now and we feel this is the right time for marriage. my parents however are very unhappy with my decision of marriage and giving me a hard time about it. they are not helping me with anything, they suck their teeth when i bring it up. they say i am too young and that i just graduated college and that i should wait....they are really hurting my feelings. i do not have a close relationship with my family, and things like this are why i cant stand them. what should i do? should i feel bad? or just suck it up till im married and go my merry way.I need advice and opinions about my family...please help me?
I am sorry you are experiencing these attitudes and behaviors from your family members. You must simply follow your heart with your mind open. You are a college educated woman you are capable of critical thinking. Step outside of yourself and think about what is best for you. If this is behavior that is consistent with who they are; certainly do not expect any miracle changes now. It would be nice; but not likely. Don't allow them to ruin your wedding day. If this is the man you are in love with. If you are happy and ready to marry this man; and you feel he is the one; it doesn't matter what anyone has to say. Live your life and enjoy every good thing life has to offer. Congratulations.I need advice and opinions about my family...please help me?
congratulations! you are not to young i think you are just about the right age, and you have not rushed into it. just carry on and have a wonderful day ignore the negative feelings if you love each other that's all you need. when you are married they will either accept it or not and then worry about what you will do but at the moment be selfish and enjoy the preparation for your wedding and forget about the negative side of your family.
I think you should just follow your heart. You're not THAT young, right? It's young, but allright I guess. I think that perhaps you should consider the consequences of being married, what you think marriage is all about. If you are ABSOLUTELY sure about it, you should go for it. Feeling bad never helped anyone. You could tell your parents how you feel about them not accepting your 'wish' to get married and then ask them what it makes them feel knowing their daughter might be getting married. How they feel personally about the deal.
Try sitting them down and telling them how you feel. Tell them that you respect their opinion, but that YOU feel this is the right thing for you to do, and tell them you'd really appreciate their support. Family is supposed to stick together.





So don't feel bad because they don't agree with it - parents will be parents. But try to work it out with them.
Tell your parents that they are hurting your feelings. If they still act this way then you really know your feelings do not matter to them. Let them know this is what you want and your fiance makes you happy. Tell them that if this turns out to be a mistake that it is your mistake. They should stand behind you and love you no matter what
well if you aren't that close to your family they obviously don't know what you need. but if you feel that you are ready to get married then i feel you should do it but don't get upset they tell you those things because they are just looking out for safety and well being. you should take what they say into consideration but also do what you think is best. just try not to make any hasty decisions.
First of all... you Mother is NEVER going to be happy with your choice in a mate for life.


Second of all... I agree with them I thin that 23 is way t young to get married. I Did it at a very young age and regret it every day.





I think you should wait until at least 25, when you have your career in place and will not have to worry about a man keeping you from fulfilling your dreams!
U have to do what is best for you. Familie may not agree with decisions that we make, but u and your boyfriend are grown. Whatever decision you make you have to live with it. Tell ur family that u love them but it is ur decision to make and not theirs.
You are 23 and you are old enough to make your own decisions. If you and your fiance' feel that this is the next step for both of you in the relationship then go for it!
you are your own person now and you make your own choices they will love you regardless they are your family. they will get over it
i was 19 when i married my 27 yr old fiance. my family too wasnt too happy about it. but once they learned i was serious and was going to get married no matter what they said they backed off and began to help me out. me and my husband have now been married almost 4 years. we now have a 2 yr old and a 1 yr old. if i had stopped and listened to my family i wouldnt have the wonderful little family of my own that i had always wanted. do not let other people try to make you live your life as they want. it is you who will deal with all the consequences that you make not them. if in 10 yrs they are saying the same thing what will you do? you will have wasted 10 yrs of not being married and not having children or a family just because you decided not to go with your heart,and rather listen to their opinions. i am now 22 and i am so glad that i followed my heart. get married be happy, and prove them all wrong. only you know what is best for YOU
i can tell you that even though parents think your born to please them, the desision that you make falls back on you, not them. if you try to make everyone else happy you wont be happy! i have a boyfreind that is older than me to and my mom always flips but i stick up for it cuz its something i belive in! so if you think your ready then go for it you can still finish school as long as your with someone who wants the best for you! there trying to bring you down so you'll change your mind, don't let that hurt you! they have to relize they can't live your life for you. sooner or later the'll come around and if not then dont worry about it thats the way it was ment to be! so follow your hart and go for it let people talk! there is always going to be someone some where tring to bring you down, keep your head up and dont listen to them! you cant make others happy if your not happy! i think if it feels right go for it no matter what!
If you are 23 and out of college - Get a job - then move out and get a place of your own. Make sure that you have a job that can support you. Then you can get married when you want. Is it the marriage they're opposed to - or the person you want to marry? consider their reasons - because they may have credence. Otherwise - save money until you have enough to put on the wedding that you want - or go to the courthouse, get married - then have a party --or not.


However, if you are expecting them to foot the bills for your wedding to someone they don't approve of -- you're deluding yourself.
LOL i just watched a show that was like your situation yesterday! Well you should confront your family about the way you feel but also tell them that it is your decision and that you are a grown up now. It is your choice. On the other hand maybe you should look into your wedding but hold off since you just graduated to look over your life and standards and to make sure that it isn't just the only choice for you but for the people in your life who make it special. just be upfront about it and make sure that you really feel in your heart that it is what you want because this is a life long commitment that you are going to have to trust your heart! Hope this helped!!
Although you may not be close to your family they may be acting this way because they really are concerned that you may be making a bad decision and wat you to have a life before you dedicate it to someone else. You however, need to follow your heart and if this is what you really want you need to assure them that at 23 or 32 this is what you want. If they choose not to support you that's fine...this is your life and you have to live by your rules. Just make sure you aren't giving them an I told you so for later. My family is like that and believe me it always sucks hard when they win. I hope you are the winner by the way :)