Ive asked this before, i need more answers.. am i interfering with his family? please i need your advice.?

ok, in details,i'm 18, i've been seeing this guy for 2 years on and off.. off more than on i must say lol. we just became officially boyfriend and girlfriend a week and three days ago.


he said he has fallen for me, and yes it's true because when he was with his ex, she came to fight me that her boyfriend was always talking about me nowadays and when they had sex, he called my name (we've never had sex before though, im a virgin) and i wasnt speaking to him at that time and so their relationship went downhill (last month). and he wrote me a song, this easter holidays, he's taken me to a lot of places i've never been before and he's really nice.. but his niceness goes a bit overboard most times.


his parents split up two months ago. he's 21, the oldest of 5..15yrs, 11 years and twins of 8 years who doesnt help around the house AT ALL..and he says they are only little and don't know what is going on..at that age, i knew what was happening..(not trying to compare though but it's a little frustrating)


since their dad walked out on them he's been the only one taking care of the house. it's been pretty tight for him, now their demands ARE GETTING TOO MUCH.. just in the space of 2 months he's got them EVERY thing they asked for.


His mum suffers from clinical depression so she cant work. i help calm her down all the time cos she gets aggressive alot. i also help clean the house that the little ones mess up ALL THE TIME..(i found food under the chair yesterday :S and im sure its the 15yr old that did it..imagine that!) i told him to reduce the amount of things he buys for them just a little bit but he told me off, he really snapped at me. i mean, he increased his hours from 8 to 12 hours work everyday and we don't even get much quality time together cos he's always exhausted. i tried explaining that the workload was too much, i care about him a lot, even when i wasn't speaking to him i always asked about him from his friends.


i just wanted to help, but we ended up having a row over it for 30 minutes before we made up and i said i won't talk about it but he should think about it. he's a nice guy but he's strong minded and doesn't change his thoughts easily (knowing him).


i don't want to interfere with it cos he's really nice and caring, but he spends too much..even with the recession thing which affected him a hell of a lot.


what should i do ? i just want him to get the important things for his younger ones, they're not his kids so he should cut down just a teenie weenie bit.


im sure they appreciate it but it's too much (just last night he bought his 15 year old brother a new wii set, he had an old one). i dont want to spoil what we've got, but i hope you see things from my point of view that i just care about him but now i'm confused, if i leave him to do what he's doing at this rate, he'll be bankrupt, dry, CAPOOT. lol and if i dont, i feel he might leave me..and i like him so much, it'd hurt if he did.


please help. thanksIve asked this before, i need more answers.. am i interfering with his family? please i need your advice.?
Yeah I do understand where your coming from but at the end of the days theyre his family and he ll do anything for them. I know your right but the best thing you can do is to step back let him do what he has to do and then be there for him when it goes wrong. He'll love you all the more for not being all 'i told you so' to him. Youve had your say and he hasnt listened, so thats all you can do for now


Hope it all works out :)Ive asked this before, i need more answers.. am i interfering with his family? please i need your advice.?
Well, sex her up in front of your brothers, and maybe let them have a go!
hahaha u got pretty screwed over when u signed up for THAT relationship
u right.but u should let him do what he think should b done i mean don't interfere %26amp; incase anything goes wrong u should b beside him.don't u think so?