Please give advice; Not sure how to approach situation with a troubled family member?

I am 19 years old %26amp; my cuz is 16. We have been close all our lives... Recently we spent some time 2gehter %26amp; i have found he has changed. He is VERY angry, and is getting ready (meaning he has yet to do anything, to my knowledge) to act on this anger thru means of stealing, etc.





He is living with his younger bro in a single parent home (only his mom) and sees his dad SOMETIMES; however his dad more often than not refuses to see them... He has CONFIDED in me some ... things?...and,





My question here is, how do i reach him? I know i should talk with his mother but what are some resources for single mothers w/ kids who are deeply angry? I can relate to the pain of life, sure, but what good is that if i cant help him get out?





I'm not sure how to approach this situation without making it worse; however if something were 2 happen and i could have prevented it, i would never 4give myself.





Any thoughts or advice? Maybe something I could even share w/ his mom? Please help... Thnx!Please give advice; Not sure how to approach situation with a troubled family member?
Did his mom %26amp; dad have a bad divorce? In most divorces the kids are the ones that suffer the most. Since from what you said, the father refuses to see them, the most logicial answer would be to talk with your cousin %26amp; his mom together. Don't bring out everything that your cousin has told you because he won't trust you again, but try to get them to talk together. Telling the mother by her self won't help the problem either. Probably best for you to talk to them to together. Hope things work out.Please give advice; Not sure how to approach situation with a troubled family member?
If you are fearing for the safety of others and or the future of ur cousin you should go to his mom.Ask her to sit down and talk to you and just explain your concern. you dont have to expose what he has confided in you just give her the jist of things. And maybe even ask her to not tell him that you said anything. But do ask her to try to keep an eye on him and try to pay more attention to see if she notices what you are saying. if that doesnt work or even if it does still voice ur concern to your own family. they may be able to speak to hiim or help him out!! Your cousin may get upset but they will def thank you later when you saved them from ruining their life!! Hope i could help!!
You're in a situation where you can betray his trust and tell someone what he told you in confidence, or try to reach him on your own. The second option probably won't work, however. If he's set on doing something stupid, he'll probably do it.





My co-worker has the best theory about things like this. Would you rather see him get in some trouble at home now and NOT end up hurt/in jail or worse, or have the second option happen and regret it forever?





Start with your school counselor. Tell her what you know, and that you're concerned and want to know what you can do to help him. He or she can either help you have the conversation with his mom, or tell you of some places they can go for family counseling.





If that's not an option, then talk to his mom now about your concerns, and tell her how worried you are about him. If you're in a bigger city there will always be counseling options available. It'll just take work to find them.