Genuine help and advice please regarding step child,conceiveving and family matters?!?!?

I dont know what to do anymore, my husbands child was 4 when we met, all was fine until the middle of last year. Me and my hubby have been trying to coneive for coming on 3 and a half years and have been unsuccessful. I have been to see the doc, and been for examinations and dye tests. They cannot find anything wrong so just have to wait another 6months for an ultra scan. His family are making my life hell! Ever since we bought our house as we were previously renting, his family resents me. They used to ring him everyday and discuss his ex and cause problems between me and him. His ex is another story, she is the most horrible person I have ever met. She has accused us of not looking after his son properly, pervert 10 year old boys in the street and stopped us from seeing the little boy for over 2months. His son not to mention drives me up the wall. He is so ungrateful and tells his father lies and blames everything on me and says that I try get him into trouble. The little boy is 7!Genuine help and advice please regarding step child,conceiveving and family matters?!?!?
girl u need to take a break...first of all...cause there is just way to much going on...first of all as far as his son...you need to put your foot down with your husband and his son...let them know how you feel...and his family...don't pay them no attention..shrug it all off sometimes its hard but it'll piss them off and you and your husband will get along way better....relax...all that stress is probably why your having problems conceiving...has your husband been checked...maybe its him...you never know...you seem like a good person so im sure it'll happen for you in due time...good luck...hope all goes well...stay strong...Genuine help and advice please regarding step child,conceiveving and family matters?!?!?
That's a lot to handle...so the first thing to do is get yourself some thinking space. Calm down, go for a drive, whatever.





Next---let's tackle the Ex, first. She may just seem horrible to you because you are the ';new mom';. She may be feeling resentful, jealous, or even angry that you are caring for her son when he is there. While this is unfair, try to put yourself in her position. Would you want your child in her care? I am not saying you have to like her---but it would be a better situation for all, if you three (her, you, and husband) could all be civil to each other. Certainly, set reasonable personal boundaries and limits. Don't let anyone walk all over you---but remember to try and walk a mile in her shoes.





Now, the little boy. The best thing you can do, is be gentle and supportive of him and with him. Maintain your innocence of course, if he lies about you, but be sure also to try your best to understand...he is a little boy. Going back and forth between mom's and dad's sucks. Hearning bad stuff about you and dad when he is at his mom's doesn't help, and when he is with you, hearning bad stuff about his mom doesn't help. Add to all this, the prospect of a new sibling to take away his dad's attention! Sounds like he is hurting and confused and could really use some guidance and understanding. He is acting out. Something is wrong.





As for the in-laws...I don't know your whole situation---but don't feel to bad if you can help it. Problems with in-laws are common, lol. Maybe you could try just being as nice as possible, and trying to communicate and reach out to them. I mean, don't let them be mean to you all the time, be strong, but also be humble. Accept them and they may accept you. If they don't right away, give them time. If they still don't, it's their loss. Again, set clear boundaries---don't let them degrade you; but be as civil and understanding as you can.





Now, the prospect of a new baby. With all the worry and stress you have right now, it's no wonder you are having trouble concieving. You need to calm yourself. Project that calmness and serenity onto others (especially your step child). Help him realize his father will still love him and want to be a daddy to him. Reassure him, and he may just behave a little better. Do your best to resolve your issues with the child; then try to establish a working relationship with the ex...these things will help you feel better, clearer and less stressed, which will make it easier to conceive, and also make the environment into which you bring the new baby, a better one all around!!





Hope that helps, and good luck :)