Pregnant at 18..my family hates my BF..need advice?

Found out I was preg. on Oct 5. Immediatly my BF(hes 18 too) wanted me to keep it. So we talked %26amp; decided it was the right thing. We r scared though %26amp; on top of everything my family hates him. (I was raised by women, no father figure %26amp; all the women have been beaten by their past husbands.) which is where I think it comes from, because to me my BF is perfect. He was always ther for me even when we werent dating (been dating for a year) %26amp; is with me every day%26amp;night. He goes to all the appts. %26amp; is very supportive. We both go to school %26amp;work, he has a good county job with benefits for him %26amp; our baby %26amp; gets 3 months paid leave once the baby comes. We are moving in together in feb. (due date is June 5th) %26amp; he talks about getting married. I know hes committed but sometimes the pressure from my family makes me wonder if he will always be this way. My fam tells me after the baby comes everything will be diff. %26amp; i will see his true side. I just pray they are wrong..any advice?Pregnant at 18..my family hates my BF..need advice?
You're the one that will have to live with this person! I would say if you love him go for it. :--#)Pregnant at 18..my family hates my BF..need advice?
the advice i could give is that i know u r a smart girl but ur still young to be pregnant you still have your whole life in front of u and also tell ur parents that im sorry and i should thinkin about myself not the guy who got me pregnant ok trust it would help u may god help u
Since i do not personally know your bf or family so i'm going to go on worst case senario...





You MUST be able to maintain your child on your own. Without help from your bf/husband or family. Then only your child's future is secure. So no matter what ( i pray that everything will be well) you and your child will not suffer.
The is a very tough situation. If your family feels this way about your bf there has to be a reason. What is their reason for hating him?





For some guys things change when the baby is born. While for other guys nothing changes. I think that it is great that he wants to be there for you and the baby.





Not all guys are so standup-ish... some guys run the moment they find out their gf is prego. Based on what you're saying he sounds like a good guy.





A baby is a huge responsibility and your family is just trying to look out for your best interests. Although I question the way they are going about doing so. You should have a discussion with them about why they dislike your bf and go from there. It sounds like they are just bitter about their past (like you've suggested).
i also got pregnant at 18. im 19 now. i understand your family's fears for you, but all you can do is listen to your heart. i moved in with my fiance and had to move out a few months later because of financial difficulties. our problems only started after we were seperated. presently we are working things out. my family cant stand him either, but only you know your relationship with him, through and through. dont let anyone's past mistakes keep you from enjoying your life and obtaining happiness. there's always a risk in opening your heart to someone. but sometimes, even if it doesnt work out, its worth it. everything is a learning experience, and i wouldnt be the person i am today without a little heartache. anyway, as with the precious little one- Jada (my daughter) is the love of my life, and i wouldnt trade having her for anything in the world.
Its tough. I have been there before with my wife. We were really young and her family was telling her the same things about me and even suggested that she have an abortion. Im sure my 11 year old is thankful we made the right decision. I cant speak about what your boyfriend will or wont do because I dont know him. You have to be the judge of that and it is your decision not your family's. It will be rough at times but if your family really loves you and Im sure they do they will be there to support you and may even support your boyfriend someday. It took me almost 10 years to win over my in-laws trust and support. I wont promise you that there wont be some rough times cause there will but you seem like a smart kid so trust yourself and everything will be ok.
Very much like my situation i was in 1 year ago email me if you wanna talk.
Go with your gut. And be glad he is there for you. If he is alright to you and for you then good-o. Once the baby is born there might be some faustration, but that comes with it most of the time.


I am 18 and I m going to be a single mother. I am not going to have the father involved at all. Just be happy you are lucky enough to have someone there for you.
you need to talk to him if he really wants a family their is child on the way.. so this child will need both of your support..


If you really love him go ahead and do whant you need to do..


best of luck..
Well, if your anything like me you'll just learn it all the hard way. I don't know your family. But w/ my family i have learned from lots of experience that they are usually right. But if your family consists of scorned women then maybe they aren't capable of seeing any good in any man. Either way, as long as your b/f is willing right now, let him. If he chooses to ';show his colors'; later on, so be it. There is nothing you can do about that. All you can do is take things from day to day and hope for the best. At least you can give your baby tons of love no matter what. It would just be nice if your family would try and support you. My family always does. They bite their tongues if they're not happy just to keep the peace. Good luck w/ everything. BTW ~ We're due w/in 2 weeks of each other.
Sounds to me like they are bitter and angry. Go with your heart. You know your boyfriend much better than they do. Share you fears with him, talk about this with him. Let him know the things your family said. (Not to make him angry at them, just so he can reassure you). Best of luck.
He seems like he is trying hard to do this with you. I have had boyfriends my family did not like and they were wrong about them. I say theres no harm in trying, and if your family is right then you should talk to them to see if moving back with them would be an option
I think they just have trouble trusting men because they were abusive to them. I would be the same way if that happened to me. I think you know him better then them. If you've been dating him a year then I think you know him well enough to know if he will be there. Babies change everyone but if he is willing to make a commitment to live with you then he is ready to start a family with you. Don't worry about your family. When the baby comes and they see how good he is with it they will come around! Good Luck. =)
I knew this girl that had a baby just last year at the age of 18, and i know another girl whos 18 due next year in august or something. At this point i thing that your parents are just scared that their little girl is gonna be a mom now and they think that ur not ready, and dont want to blame it on u so they decide to hate ur boyfriend instead to get out thier frustration. Let them know how much u and your bf are in love and that u both r very excited for the baby to come. Things should get better once the baby is out of u and is being loved on by ur bf. Then hopefully ur parents will see the love in him. Hope everything turns out right! May God be wit u!
If that were true, you probably would have seen his true side after he found out that you were pregnant. If he's good to you, dont listen to what other ppl say. I know their your family but if you keep listening to what they say, then soon you'll start to convince yourself that everything they say if true and you will doubt the one you love. (Belive me been there, done that.) If your happy dont worry about, and dont stress. Remember you've got a little one on the way now! Congrats!
Well first off congratulations on your bundle of joy to come. As for your situation, I think him putting the effort to want to be there is great and that's a lot more than most young men are doing these days. I think you should give it a shot. Sure he could change after the baby comes but you won't know unless your there to see for yourself. There's no doubt that having a baby will bring some stress but not anything that yall can't overcome. Stick with what your doing and everything should be fine and if it doesn't work for some reason at least you can't say you didn't try. Good Luck!
follow your heart, the boy seems really nice so go for him
Go with your heart. He sounds like a good guy, with a good head on his shoulders. Don't listen to your family because their opinions are based on their past experiences. All relationships are different. My family didn't like my husband either (before he was my husband), for no reason, just because they thought I could do better. But I went with my heart, we got married, %26amp; now are expecting our 2nd child. My family likes him now, it just took some time! :)





Good luck %26amp; congrats on the new baby!!
Be good to yourself. If he's good to you then there's no reason why you shouldn't give him a chance especially since you have a baby on the way. When and if he stops being good to you and good for you then get out fast. Always be smart follow the same advice you would give a loved one. If he's as good as you think and you guys make it work, your family will eventually come around. Good luck to all of you especially your baby.
They are giving you what they think is good advice based on their histories. But not every man is the same. They have good intentions and you cant make them like him, but if you love your bf and want to be with him and raise this baby with him, then dont heed their advice. They may be right and they may be wrong. It all depends on what kind of man he is. He sounds like a good one.





I have to agree with them that having a baby changes things but sometimes things change for the better. When I got pregnant, it actually just made me and my fiance closer. And once she was born, that connection was strengthened. We had a baby that we had created together. We both seem a lot happier since she was born too (albeit a lot more tired-shes 2 and VERY active!) because what can make you more happy than a beautiful smiling child!?
your family need to support you that what family do
Trust your instinct. If he hasn't failed you this far, have faith in him. I'm not saying it will all be rosey, its tough adjusting to a new baby. You family seems to have men issues, its hard for them to accept that you actually may have found a great one. Its seems like you two are ready and preparing the best you can for the new baby. I commend you both for steping up to be stable parents to the baby. I wish you luck. as far as your family, they dont seem like they will change, so you guys just need to stay strong in your commitment to each other and the baby, and if you need to for sanity, try to distance yourself from your family. Family is suppose to be supportive and caring and understanding, which you dont seem to be getting from them. Good luck. and congrats. you can do it!