Were ready for a Baby but my Family thinks were Not ready? Advice?

I come from a Large family. Everyone in my family got married around 27 or older and now are in there 30s and are TTC or are just getting married at 30.


I am the odd one. I got married at 21. Being the youngest and only girl, I flew out of the nest early. Now at 22 my husband who is just a few months shy of his 24th birthday, We want to start a family.


Every time I am at the Mall with my mom and I see a baby, I will say, I can't wait to have one soon. My mom states ';Wait 3 or 4 four years and then you will be ready. Just today, My Grandmother, Aunt and cousin were talking about how health insurance is expensive.


I chimed in saying, Thankfully we have great health insurance and when we have a baby, It will only cost us 10 dollars.(Co pay No deductible). My Aunt was like that is Great, but stop talking about babies. You aren't ready.


I got SOO upset. She see's me twice a year. At four of July and at Christmas.


Right now, We are looking at my Cousins who have been TTC for over 3 years with no success and at 31, I doubt it will get easier.


I am adopted because my Mother waited till she was 40 to have kids because she thought she was finally ';ready';.





My husband and I are very much in Love, have a house of our own, Great health insurance and an over amount of love to give. My husband has a decent job making around 50K. Yeah were not rich but were happy and we live comfortable.


We want a baby soo badly but when I bring up hints of wanting to have a kids, People start laughing, thinking were not ready, were too immature....Etc etc. How can I get my family to support us?Were ready for a Baby but my Family thinks were Not ready? Advice?
Well, I was 19 when I got married(my husband ws 20) and we just had our first this year(I'm 23, my husband 24 now). His mother insisted we do the ';5 year plan'; after getting married. She even said, after our son was HERE, that we were too young and she wished we would have waited. But you know what? It wasn't her decision to make and it's not your family's decision to make either.





You're a grown woman, you don't need anybody else's permission to do anything. If you and your husband think you're ready to start a family that's all that matters. It's funny, though, those same people telling you you're NOT ready will be the same ones wanting to see your baby after he/she is born.Were ready for a Baby but my Family thinks were Not ready? Advice?
First off you need to realize that you don't need their approval. Just do what you and your husband think is right for you and your family. Once you are actually pregnant hopefully they will be behind you 100%.
my mom kinda thought the same thing before i had my daughter but when she was born she be came the apple of her eye and is very spoiled by her, things will change once the baby is born.
it really isnt their choice. if you and your hubby are ready then i say go for it[:


they will support you once you have one[:
I doubt that any one is ever really ';ready'; when they have a baby. If you feel ready, go ahead and try. Once they find out that you're expecting, they'll be nicer, I'm sure.
Just have a baby and prove them wrong. What have you got to lose? You guys have everything a baby already needs including lots of love. No one knows what you can do except you
What they could be saying is...if we were young, doing well financially, etc, we would take several wonderful trips, see the world, do exciting things together as a couple, and around 25 or 26 start thinking about having children.





Once you bring a child into the world, your relationship with yourself, your husband, your family will change.





Enjoy yourself is what they are saying, buy what you want know...because when the child comes, the money goes other places.
i know this is going to sound rude....but who cares what they think....to me u sound like u are ready!!!!! if u feel like u can do it go ahead and do it....i had my first 2 months shy of my 20 birthday and wouldnt change it for anything....i get to grow up with my kids do things with them...i love it...an di was ready....they will support u......once they know there is no turning back !!!
how the hell would they knwo what YOU are ready for- have baby if that's what you want- don't wait for anyone's approval- if wait until you are '; ready';, that may never happen. if you are stable have insurance and a loving family then that's all you need. i was 19 when i had my son. he was not planned but i have been in the same relatioship for over 5 years and my son's arrival happen to be the best thing for both of us and we're great parents and provide for him well. in fact, he has EVERYTHING lol ignore them, they will have to support you when you get pregnant





i'm more stable than alot of 30 year olds that i know- some people take til they are 30 and some people not so long
My advice is to start putting money in a savings account and start trying to get pregnant. It sounds like you and your husband are on the same page which is the most important thing.





You won't believe how much babies cost when they get here, its nice to have a little padding.
There's not specific age when one should have a baby!


If you're married and have the means to support a child-it looks like you do-and you guys want a baby then why not?


Forget about what other people say, you're now a married woman, if you and your husband want to start a family then go ahead!! A baby is such a beautiful blessing, I wasnt near ready to have a baby at 22, I mean I always wanted to have children but I wasnt settled at all. Im lucky that I have children now at mid-30's.


You seem to have everything to give your baby a wonderful home, go for it!!


You dont need your family support, really. The ones that will be awake at 3 am is you and your husband not your parents or relatives! LOL seriously. Once you get pregnant everybody will be on board.


If your husband wants a child as well then go ahead and start working on it!!


Good Luck!!
u are grown u and ur husband sound ready it is your decision dont let anyone make it 4 u go ahead u dont want to wait and then have a hard time TTC ur family loves u now and will love u n ur baby when it gets here good luck
If you guys are in love and want kids thats up 2 you. your family shouldn't tell you what u can and can't do. you're old enough to make your own choices. My sister is 19 and her boyfriend is 22 and they are having a baby. You don't need to be 30 in order to be ready 2 have kids. There are girls that have kids at like 17 and are great mothers.


Hope this helps and good luck having kids!
Of course it's your decision.





That said, if you decide to have children soon, consider sitting down with key members of your family, or at least your mom, to discuss your decision with them. Is it their business or their life? No. But, your life will be easier if you talk to them first. Especially your mom. Tell her that you want her to understand your decision, but be sure to listen to her reasons too.





The whole reason that I say this is that families are complicated. Our noses are in each other's business and in each other's lives. That can be frustrating, but it can also be a wonderful support system through the tough times. The last thing you want to do before getting pregnant is alienate family members. You'll need their help, believe me!!





And just one last note, my husband and I were married five years before we got pregnant, and we had a blast. I wish we had saved more money, and I wish we had traveled more. But we did enjoy those years as a childless couple. And now I couldn't enjoy my children more.





Good luck to you, either way. Oh, and life is easier with babies if you don't get a puppy. It's certainly fine to have a dog and small children, but it's easier without one. Just my two cents, having raised my children with big dogs. I love them, but they're a pain.
I don't know if anyone really ever knows if they are ready if you have not had a child before. However, it is definitely NOT up to anyone else but you to decide when to have a baby. Once that little bundle of joy arrives, their hearts will melt and they won't say a word about you not being ready. Also, it could take you quite a bit of time to get pregnant or you may get pregnant on the first try. However, if it does take a while you will then have many childbearing years left before the chromosomal risks start to increase dramatically if you choose to have another child.
I also come from a large family. I am the youngest and I am 32 years old. I just had my first child and my parents and siblings still treat me like I am the child. Those feelings will never change, unfortunately. In fact I was petrified to call everyone and announce our pregnancy because I was worried about what they would say. Amazingly everyone was really supportive.


It sounds to me like you are ready. I would ask them why they think that your not ready and if they say ';your too young';. Simply tell them that age is just a number and that every child is a blessing. Tell them you are putting it in gods hands and if his plans are for you to have a child than it what will be will be. Good Luck!
The best thing to do is have everyone sit down and explain everything to them again. Make sure you and your husband put on a united front, bringing up the benefits that you could extend to a child. Make sure that you have all of your ducks in a row before you do this.





Sometimes, it just takes time for your family to get over something that they do not necessarily approve of. Make sure that your parents know that you would like for them to be involved in your lives and that you would like to share your excitement about having a family with them.





At the end of the day, if you and your husband have sorted out all of the details and feel that you are ready to start a family, that's all that matters. Your advance planning is certainly much better than a lof of unexpected pregnancies!





Good luck!