They don't have to give you a tv, phone, or computer. The only thing they have to give you is love, food, and a roof over your head. You want a phone? Get a job and buy one yourself. It sounds like they want you to stay out of trouble. I think you are over reacting.15 year old needs advice on a major family problem.?
your parents are control freaks. i'm guessing that something happened where they feel that you have betrayed their trust (i am the mother of a 15 year old girl) and they think they are keeping you safe and teaching you a lesson. i think that they are totally out of line, and although these things you are missing out on are all privileges, i feel punishment should fit the crime. hang in there sweetness, you have only 3 years until you are 18 and then they will not be able to control your life. for now, respect them, respect yourself and make the best of what you have...maybe you can earn their trust. befriend your babysitter, focus on getting good grades, take up a crafting hobby or reading. maybe you could take on the role of keeping your home neat and clean since you are stuck there, fix dinners so your family can spend some time getting to know each other and save money by not dining out. showing maturity and responsiblility is bound to get their attention.
This will offend you, but...oh well...
I am operating from the assumption that you ';did something'; that caused a breech of trust, said something that would cause them to believe you to be untrustworthy or a danger to yourself, or, simply have not been following instruction when one or both parents told you to do something.
Based on that...WHAT DID YOU DO?
Figure out WHY they are offended at your actions / choice of words / behaviour, and fix the problem. Once the problem is fixed, don't lapse. In a few months, they will loosen up and one you have earned it back, the trust will return. (Incidentally, in some jurisdictions, until you reach 16, THEY can face charges of Child Endangerment for allowing you to be at home unsupervised.)
Now, I admit there is a slimmer possibility that there was NOTHING you did/said/failed to do that triggered this behaviour. In this case, ASK them WHY they've grounded you for something you didn't do and have no direct or indirect knowlege of, and what can you to show them that you are still trustworthy. It could be that someone of your age was recently found dead at the side of the road, and they want to protect you from the same, albeit in a massively overboard knee-jerk reaction kinda way. Or, they may have received credible threats on their or your lives, may be in Wintess Relocation, etc.
As for the ';never listening'; part... ASK QUESTIONS and LISTEN to the answers instead of simply whining and winging (sorry, but the word I want to use is auto-filtered out) about the unfairness of the situation. Whether you ARE at fault or no, this approach works wonders.
Also, being under 15, your BOYFRIEND is not the ONLY one that can get in legal trouble if you runaway...YOU are. Being a Runaway is a criminal offence...well, the act of I belive, not the actual state, but you get the picture. It's rarely if ever prosecuted, but still...
As to you boyfriend saying HE would take you in and make sure you get to school...that sounds suspiciously like he's 18 or older. If this is true, your parents could make life MISERABLE for him if they ever suspect you've had sex with him. You're under the age of legal consent, and he's more than 2 years older than you. It's called Statutory Rape, it's a felony, and will see your guy on the Sex Offenders list likely for the rest of his life...as a peadofile. If this assumption is true...THIS is why your parents don't like him!
i know exactly what your going thorugh execpt im 16, but you dont want to move out while your in school cause you will fall behind. i would first talk to your parents asking them for a track phone mabey so they can save money, i would also talk to them about letting you see your friends more. um what im doing now is during spring break im gonna spend the time off with my best guy friend up in the mountains jsut so i can clear my mind which might help you too, but dont do it while your in school. I wish you the best of luck
if what were me i would be like screw it im leaving i mean seriousley your parents have to be real douche bags ( no ofence) for taking away all your acess to technology. and i would like to ask one question if you have no acess how did u post this question on the internet?
Sure. Knock it off. You're being punished for over using your phone, and for what you are doing on the computer and with the tv. Obviously money isn't the problem because they are willing to pay for a babysitter who is obviously necessary since you can't be trusted. You are too young to have a b/f especially one who can ';take care of you';. All that tells me is that he is a grown man taking advantage of a child. He couldn't get into legal trouble if he was your age.
Harder to stay with your parents? Who do you think is going to pick up the pieces of your life when you stubbornly destroy it?
Grow up. Stop hurting everyone one around you that cares for you, and have the common sense you were born with to understand that if a grown man is interested in a 15yr old girl the ONLY thing they have in common is sexual. Otherwise he'd had a normal relationship with a woman his own age. You have nothing to offer him, except what he can get from you because you don't have the brains to know when you are being manipulated.
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