I am 24 i have a long term partner we are engaged but not married as yet. When we first got together all i talked about was starting a family i was baby mad even know then i knew i wasnt emotionally or finacially ready and we were living with he's parents which was definately not suitable as there wasn't room for a baby.
Now I live with my partner in our own place, im know im more ready now than i was a few years ago and my fiance is going on about having a baby more than me. Deep down i know i want children i always have and before my fiance met me he didnt want children but now does, but i am now worried or scared about having a baby, even know i know i want to.
Im confused!
I know this isnt really a question but has anyone else ever thought like this or have any comments? I dont have many friends to ask advice.
ThanksAdvice on starting a family?
It sounds to me like you are really sensible to be thinking about this so carefully. I agree with one of the other answers that said if you wait til you think everything is perfect, it will be too late! I had my first at 38 and I still didn't think I was ready. When he arrived, I realised I should have done it years before!! I would say if you think you are ready, you are. Don't wait too long. Some people have difficulty conceiving and, while I hope you aren't one of them, you don't know til you try. It may take longer than you think. From what you say, you sound like you would be a great Mum, now or later.
Good luck.Advice on starting a family?
I think if you're somewhat worried about it that means you're much closer to ready than you were before. It's a huge commitment and not to be taken lightly. Anyone who's serious about bringing another life into the world and being responsible for it and isn't a little worried probably shouldn't undertake it.
I have definitely been there...I want a baby really bad right now but I am scared too..I know me and my bf would be great parents together, we both have a child outside of the relationship, but in the back of my mind i worry...it's normal. if you feel up to it, then great go for it!!
It is always scary when you are thinking about bringing an innocent life into the world. There are so many things to worry about. The ones that do the most worrying usually turn out to be the best parents because they care more about their child.
thats great i think you always know when you are ready to start a family! you go for it good luck!
I think wanting a baby is great. I've been with my husband 10 years married for almost 5 of them. I think you should wait until you guys get married. You should think about the reasons you aren't married yet. Even if it's something a mundane as you can't afford a wedding, think about how you will afford to have a baby. Plus I thought it was great having a few years of married life under my belt before I decided to have kids. Just for the simple fact I got to enjoy my time alone with my husband. You guys should get a dag or cat, I know it's no where close to a baby but it's a small amount of comitment and you should always start off with baby steps. Don't worry you'll have plenty of time to have kids you're only 24. And it's a great sign you both want the same things out of life, just take your time.
I share your feelings! My husband and I have decided to start planning for a family after talking about it for a year or two. Right now we're in the ';set up'; stage, so we aren't even TTC yet. Of course I've looked all over the web to find as much information as I can about the proper way to plan and what things need to be taken into consideration not only for the baby's room, but from a financial standpoint as well. It's a bit overwhelming! Before it became ';real'; (i.e., before we officially made the decision that it was time to start acting), I had no doubts whatsoever. Now that we've started organizing for it, I go back and forth. Sometimes I find myself arguing the pros and cons, and the pros don't always win! Other times I can't wait and want a baby now. Then I get scared because I feel like we won't be able to do all the things different websites say to do and still be able to afford to live ourselves. But then people say that things will just work out. I tend to prefer planning a bit more than ';it'll work out somehow.'; Strangely enough, though, even though I'm worrying about everything else, I'm not scared of actually going into labor. Go figure, right?
The one thought that keeps me sane with all of this is that the one common thread seems to be that if you wait for all of the conditions out there to be perfect before you start trying to have a family, you'll be retired first!
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