Advice please about meddling family?

I have been with my partner for over a year, I have a young daughter from a previous marriage and she calls my partner daddy as her biological farther has no interest, we are Very happy and planning on another child.





The trouble is his family, mostly his nephew. He's never warmed to me being with his uncle, it's like he thinks of him as his dad. This doesn't bother me but he keeps coming out and telling me things from my partners past which he is obviously being told of by his mother as he is only 11 and wouldn't remember.





He also makes an issue of our daughter calling his uncle daddy.





It's really upsetting me as I can't possibly be more welcoming to him. It feels like my partners sister and nephew are trying to get rid of me (she has no partner so expects my partner to bail HAE out constantly.)





We have spoke of moving somewhere, but I'm not sure as I don't think it's fair when it is them with the problem.





If anyone has been in a similar situation and has any advice, Please share. ThanksAdvice please about meddling family?
I've been in the same situation. my experience is that you can't possibly win. that's the trouble with teaming up with someone who has been kind to his family they get mean and don't want to let go. they'd probably do anything the can to drive a wedge between you.





forget what's fair. it isn't them with the problem it's you, and pretty soon it's going to be your little daughter, especially when you have more children. If you're in a position to move then do so, and distance yourselves from the poison.Advice please about meddling family?
Sorry I was the 2nd person to rate proud walkers answer as bad, I didn't mean to. She is very right. Speak to your partner, if he can't speak to his sister or even if he does and nothing happens, then consider moving. You and your family need to be happy, that's all that matter.
I think you should talk with your husband about this, don't pay attention about what the sister and the nephew doing wrong things or you can talk to them that what they are doing is wrong if they don't listen get your daughter away from them.
I had a similar situation and it took me a long time to realise that I was impacting on their lives, they wern't coming into my life by their choice.. It doesn't matter how nice you are you can't change them. In reality what happens is that time becomes a great healer and although you probably will never truly be 'one of them' you can make life easier for yourself by accepting that you are going to get bricks thrown at you. Believe me, in the end they will back off and gradually become a bit friendlier. The harder you try to make an ideal situation the harder life will become for you. Back off , turn yourself into a bag of cotton wool, the wool springs back into shape no matter how many times it gets punched, in the end the punchers wear themselves out and give up.
My mother was in a similar situation that she finally just told me about last year...At the time she was really distressed..You can't get rid of the bad because they are like leeches, hanging on to suck out the life of your relationship...My stepdads sister was spreading rumors about my mom saying that my mom was a slut and that the baby she was carrying wasn't his and all...it was a real hard time for mom, this was all four years ago when my mom and stepdad met up again after 20 years, they were high school sweet hearts..anyway stepdads sister was a total cow with spreading all those lies and she even stole my moms job when mom was really sick from the pregnancy and needed some time off...She (Stepdads sister) is a major *****..Neway sorry getting carried away...Im 20 now so you don't think im like a kid or anything...





You have to take the negative away from your life yourself, you can't just expect it to disappear or that time will heal it, because from my moms experiance its been nearly five years and its still going on...My mother doesn't have anything to do with hubs sister and HE knows mom hates his family...Just don't put up with it...Its either, Plug it or eliminate it by taking yourself away from her pettiness...
This is really your husbands鈥?problem and not yours. I know it's not easy because the nephew keeps telling you things. Now what your husband needs to do is tell this nephew's mother to stop feeding him with things about him. Then he needs to talk with his nephew. And because the nephew has been telling you things then you should be there also when your partner talks to his nephew. Your partner has to put a stop to this because this is ridiculous. Your partner also has to remind his nephew to mind his business about what goes on in your home. And the best example to give the nephew is if your daughter wants to call your partner daddy that it's none of his business. My blood boils when I see an adult filling a child's heads with things that do not concern them. And moving won鈥檛 solve the problem. And don't ever let anyone chase you from where you live because they are interfering in your life. Put a stop to it instead. Your partner may lose a nephew because he's putting his foot down. But family needs to mind their own business. Good luck.