Anyone have advice on autism, and family outings? I have 4 boy's and 1 girl ( with autism). HELP!!!?

I have had a couple of incedents with people out in public, for instance, the family went to a dodger game, my husband and I have decided to try outings, instead of being stuck at home, we know and have a plan in case she can't handle it. Well she was not having it, so I took her back to our car, as I was walking back, she was extremely upset, screaming and pushing people, if they made any contact, well one lady yelled at me to , control my kid! This breaks my heart, and angers me. I need a way to ignore situations like this.Anyone have advice on autism, and family outings? I have 4 boy's and 1 girl ( with autism). HELP!!!?
Why not go on outings with other family members (sister in law). You can always count on family to help.Anyone have advice on autism, and family outings? I have 4 boy's and 1 girl ( with autism). HELP!!!?
Some people dont realise the difficulties of raising an autistic child.My daughter is special needs too...although not autistic and she does'nt act that way in public but the only advice I could really give to you is each time your daughter acts this way and you get a negative response is to apologise to them and say she can't help it she's autistic and can't control her self.....I would in your situation.
My daughter would do the same. It was very hard because what was actually happening was panic attacks. She couldn't cope with people around her, she didn't know what was appropriate. What you did by taking her out to the car was a good idea but you need to start working on managing the problem. It will take lots of repitition, mental strength on your behalf and lots of encouragement. What I did with my daughter was explained her condition to her and that it was not an excuse for bad behaviour. I told her there are people everywhere and we had to find a way to deal with how she feels when we come into contact. As you know, focusing is the key, always get her to lok you in the eyes when you talk to her and when you are out, always try to keep her focussed on you or the event you are out for. Instead of taking her to the car, I would say, 'ok I know how you feel, close your eyes,' I would rub her back for a minute and talk her through it taking away negatives and trying to get her to think of positives. I also told her to think of others feelings, like her sisters. It wasn't easy. It took a long time, but with strength, firmness, repetiton, encouragement and an unwillingness to relent, we won. She is now a happy healthy 19yo getting on with her life as normally as possible for a child with this affliction. as for people making comments, I usually ignored them. However, sometimes it got too hard. I remember asking one woman, 'howmany kids have you got?' Two, she answered, ';and how many of them are autistic? I asked, none, she replied. ';Then get out of my face, mind your own business, your not helping'; I told her. You dont have to be that mean, but it worked. (and felt good too)
I think any were you go it will be a challenge, and more so if the numbers of children are more than two.





I used to take an autistic child out as part of my job as a care attendant, saying this he was 18 or so, never the less, he was never any real hassle, unless he didn't want to do something, then the experience was the same as you had with the girl in your family.





Maybe if its possible get some good friends/family members to go with you to help manage more than two children.





Or contact a relevant charity like i worked for at the time specializing in escorting children %26amp; adults with conditions such as this, the one i worked for in my country was: www.crossroads.org.uk





It was dealt with by the social services, and the child had time allocated to them, which was worked out by social work departments:





The charity was paid by the social work department.





As for ideas, well you know, you really shouldnt feel dictated to by members of the public.





Most people, myself included, would i think be accomodating of children or adults with any conditon, regardless of what it is.





Of course there will be the exception, but dont be annoyed by such people, because they are just rude and unforgiving.





Now i`m no expert, this is just how i would deal with taking them out ok.